Just recently, i have been faced with a decision. Should i cross over or not? Here's the situation. I have a really good friend who i enjoy spending time with and sharing many personal things with. The only problem is that i haven't crossed that line where i can truly tell her things that bother me. So far we are good friends but i never pushed the line where i speak up about things that i see are a problem for her. I wonder how she will accept criticism from me. Can i do it in such a loving way that it does not seem hurtful. Will i hurt our relationship or strengthen it? It goes both ways too. So far she has never come to me with any complaints or advice, about things i may or may not be doing right. And i know i am not perfect. I want that iron sharpeneth iron relationship and not a only feel good one. I want to be challenged even if it hurts. But i just haven't decided if our relationship is ready to crossover. It is a big risk. In my opinion not every friendship is ready to make that plunge. I know it takes time and trust. I would like to think we are there or close to it but i am standing on the line wondering what to do. Maybe i need a big push!
P.S. Before you start calling me and asking me if this blog is about you. The answer is no and yes or yes and no. You see even if this isn't about you, just the fact that you think it is means that yes, indeed it is about you. You see, most, many, several, if not all my friendships are bordering on this line. Very close but not close enough. So what is the common denominator in this? The answer is me! So don't go crying to your mama, I still love all my friends, i just need to cross over the line and see if i have any friends left!!!!
Lisa and Ross
Enjoying our time jet skiing!
Xavier
He lives for football!
Zeph
Don't let the cute smile fool you!
Zeke
The newest champ in the family!
10 comments:
hey...wait a minute - I am the husband here...shouldn't we talk about this BEFORE you put it on the world wide web!?
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Whoops! i guess i better be more careful next time! Later baby!
Tell me whatever you want. You know I won't care. But remember, I cry easily. So, take it easy on me:)
Brenda,
You're hilarious! I'll have to come up with something to tell you. But I don't know what is wrong with me. i am just a chicken liver in my old age. Telling people off in my younger age was easy. i guess that is why i have no friends left!!!! Just kidding, i think..... :)
I think I have become the opposite....I think. It is easier for me now in my "old age" to tell people what I am thinking then it was when I was younger. I don't think I am so much a people pleaser anymore. A good thing or not, I'm not sure.
Well, my sister, I know this does not apply to me because you have no problems confronting me about anything. You are lucky I don't legally disown you. Ha!Ha! On a serious note, I think you should cross the line. Pray about it, choose the right words, the right time, and leave the rest to God.
Dawn, Wow, you gave me great advice! It's usually the other way around. Thanks for your words. You are such a sweetie!
Lisa, scripture says the wounds of a friend are faithful. This means that it is OK in love to tell someone the truth in order to help them grow or protect them. The Holy Spirit will lead you into the timing. I have a few friends who will honestly tell me their concerns if I am headed the wrong direction and honestly, in one situation, it changed my life so drastically that I am so grateful that she spoke up!
Lisa- Just remember, old Russian proverb by Grammy Clymer," if you can't say something good about someone don't say anything." I think most people know their personal faults and don't like to be reminded of them,but if these faults border on sin in there life than I think you should confront them after much prayer and asking God for wisdom in what to say. Does the Bible address this area? Ask Pastor Ross! Love, Dad Clymer
P{.S. Glad Xavier liked my letter.
Dad, Grammy was very wise, wasn't she? Plus you give good advice too. Thanks Dad! You're the best, even if Xavier has bigger biceps! :) Love you!
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